what is counselling?
People come to counselling for a number of reasons: as a way of exploring or managing feelings and thoughts, relationship difficulties, identity issues, trauma, anxiety and depression, or just a sense that you want something different in how you experience life.
Counselling offers an opportunity for you to explore your past and present experiences through building a trusting counselling relationship in which to explore how you feel both emotionally and in your body. Sometimes you may want or need a short number of sessions, and at other times the therapy may involve working for longer in order for you to make deeper changes in yourself or your life. People come to me if they want to work on themselves and/or their relationships with other people.
There are many types of counselling and psychotherapy and each therapist will work in their own individual way. For me, it is important to work in a collaborative way, and I describe myself as a relational therapist. This means that I seek to be present as myself in a safe and steady way, and at the same time, work with the understanding that things that happen in therapy can reflect what is going on in your life, or of your previous experiences with people. It can therefore be a place for you to understand more about the ways you may react to other people as a result of your experiences from the past, and then explore new and more rewarding ways of being in the present.
In practice this means a balancing of focus between the things brought from your life and past experiences, together with what is happening in the present moment.